One day in Haiti, The Minister remarked his
surprise at what he perceived to be a huge “gay population.”
Puzzled, I asked him where he got the idea.
“Look around you, Mom! The men are holding hands everywhere we go!”
Ah. Yes, true…but not what you think. Haitian
men walk down the road holding hands in the same spirit a football coach smacks
his players butts (which seems more…oh forget it it, I am not going there).
I experienced the Haitian need for touch one
afternoon when I sat down on a stoop with a few bottles of nail polish. The
press of the crowd was tremendous. I felt like Jesus, the time he had to preach
from a boat due to the same issue, but, in a tactical error, I set up shop with
the sea several blocks in front of me.
After awhile, some of the faces and fingers
became familiar. Children came back with a finger that was “missed” or
“smudged” and had to be redone, or the need for an extra color over top of the
first.
Jody, who heads up the mission at the Mole,
prepared me for this. See, as much as the Haitians crave touch, they ironically
don’t give their kids a lot of positive physical attention (see Saturdays post
on voodoo). So this manicure was huge! It wasn’t the color they wanted as much
as that moment with their hand in another, getting attention.
So they wrecked their nail polish. Just to
have the experience again.
Friends and Readers: I am in Haiti this week, but have left you with a series of short posts highlighting aspects of Haitian culture to encourage thought, discussion, and understanding. The next one posts tomorrow. Thanks for reading! See you next week!
Friends and Readers: I am in Haiti this week, but have left you with a series of short posts highlighting aspects of Haitian culture to encourage thought, discussion, and understanding. The next one posts tomorrow. Thanks for reading! See you next week!
2 comments:
I wish the US culture supported healthy touch more. We're so afraid of being misinterpreted or of being genuinely assaulted... I remember one time as a single mom I was very poor, but I was so desperate for healthy touch I went to the salon just to get my hair washed and styled since I couldn't afford to get it cut at the time. Along those lines, we should have a spa night. Invite a few girlfriends and take turns doing nails and facials and such. What do you think?
I love your FB pictures and blog post about your Haitian Nail Salon! :) I had no idea they had such a craving for physical touch. I can relate! Way to go, my introverted friend! :)
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